A Contributor’s Advice

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How to talk to Asian women online

Talking to women is a good thing, especially because you can put it to use as a training ground. Girls you talk to online can be girls you will never see in real life.

I would advise you to start chatting with girls far away from where you live. Don’t go in with the mindset that you need to get a woman right now. There are literally millions of fish in the sea.. and first you need to learn how to fish.  The bait and the hook are the tools you’ll need.  A strategy and resolve is what will lead to success.

Now, when you have practiced and you feel like you know how to get a woman’s attention you can start contacting girls in your own town.

Think about that girls can only judge you by your online profile and you picture, so groom yourself and make it look like you have many women around you.  The point is: women are women.  You don’t need to put anything on a pedestal.

-Mark

The Initial Approach

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There are different ways you can go about approaching a girl, the guidelines are generally:

*Be well groomed

*Always dress nicely when you are in public

*Smile (this doesn’t get enough attention, but it does work wonders)

*Be conversational – meaning you have to know how to learn how to listen and figure out what makes her tick

*Compliment her subtly but quickly

Finally, approach her in a social setting where you are confident(at a concert, etc).

Pick up girls Online Part 2

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Not very many women post ads. But all women think alike. They’d rather search through the ads looking for Mr. Right. When they do post an ad, they get innundated with responses. You’ll have to make yourself stand out. Make your response show that you’re interested and that you’re serious. The women may get many responses, but the majority of the are going to be like “Hi, I’m interested write me.” The key is to give up some information about yourself to see if she likes you. Your hobbies and interests, etc. Now you may do this a few times and get no responses. Does this mean you’ve wasted your time and there is no hope for you? Of course not. I’m going to let you in on a golden secret of some of the world’s most succesful people. Life is a numbers game.

Always remember that every rejection brings you one step closer to a success. This holdstrue whether you’re looking for a job, asking women out on dates, or trying to make a sale. Tele-markters are a unique brand of people. The good ones enjoy being told “no”, because they know they are that much closer to a yes. So what does this mean to you? Well the best way to apply this knowledge to online personals is to write a generic, yet thoughful response to personal ads and then send it out to every woman who posts an ad who is even remotely close to what you are looking for.

Now, since the majority of women don’t post ads, for maximum play, you’re going to have to post one yourself. Unique, intriguing and funny ads that will attract a lot of women. However, if you write your own honest, sincere ad, you may get more qualified replies from women with specific features you desire. Once again, the key is numbers. You should not feel bad if you get no responses, especially if you look inonly one place (Yahoo is a the worst place. Way too many stupid men, not enough serious women. People just screw around posting ads with no intention of responding making it harder to weed out the serious ones.) So, the best way to increase your chances is to post to as many (reasonable) places as possible.

Pick up girls Online Part 1

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You want to pick up chicks online, you wouldn’t be readin this otherwise. If you’re desperately seeking a relationship, I do suggest you try some of the other suggestions on this site first. I just don’t want you to get stuck in a rut on your computer and never go outside and meet women. It’s a lot more fun and the odds are better. However, if you like playing around on the computer, or have a lot of free time at work then you can have a good time in chat rooms and online personals trying to pick up chicks. Let me just say up front that the odds are stacked against you. The reason is that there are just too many clueless men out there who are disgusting, crude and rude to women when hiding behind computers. I know the anonimity of a computer can make it tempting to act like a jerk to women, but you’ll never get anywhere doing that.

If you want to go out and meet women on chat lines, there’s not a lot of advice I can give other than to go out there, be yourself and have fun. It sounds generic, but will help to give you the confidence you need in any situation. Ignore people if they offend you. A far better way to pick up chicks online is through online personals. But once again, the main problem is that us guys just plain-and-simple outnumber the girls online. Never fear! Here is some great information that should tilt the playing field to your side.

The Rules (4 – 7)

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4- Eye Contact

Want an easy way to gauge if your approach will be successful? In terms of your initial approach, there is a quick move you can perfom. Try making preliminary eye contact from a distance and see how she responds. If she holds your gaze — or even better, if she smiles — go talk to her. If she avoids your gaze, on the other hand, your chances are slim. Also, don’t forget to do your “research.” Survey the area and you’ll notice which women are looking to meet someone.

As obvious as it may seem, a woman who is looking around at men in the room is probably going to be more receptive than a woman who is only paying attention to the friends she came with. Remember this: A woman divulges a lot in her body language, so if you want to increase your odds, pay attention. Making and receiving her eye contact is among the most important pickup rules women want men to know.

5- Don’t try to pickup both her & her friends

While you would be statiscally increasing your chances in a numerical sense; hitting on more than one woman in the same social circle is a real deal-breaker. Not only will it make you seem like a player, but you are forgetting one important factor: In order to successfully pick up a woman, you have to make her feel special. Hitting on or expressing interest in her friends will certainly not make her feel special. So even though you might be attracted to more than one woman in the group, pick a woman and stick with her. The alternative is that you’ll be going home alone.

6- Let her know she’s the most beautiful woman in the world

Often, a woman will go for a man for only one reason: how he makes her feel. So if you make her feel like the most beautiful girl in the room, chances are she’ll want to see you again. This will work in your favor in the long run too; if she’s confident and comfortable with you, you’ll reap the benefits in all aspects of the relationship. This rule does come with one warning clause: Skip it if she appears to have a big ego already, as you don’t need to over-inflate it.

7- Complement her even if you think she’s heard it all before

In other words, don’t avoid approaching her in the beginning and start complimenting her later because you think you’re not the first to do so. You might think that it’s not worth your while to approach that beautiful girl standing in the corner. You probably assume that she has had umpteen guys chat her up before you. But consider this: Most guys think that very same thing. Often, the prettiest girls get their share of cat-calls on the street, but they don’t get approached much by nice, genuine guys. So don’t be intimidated or assume she’s heard it all before. Instead, if you keep it simple, she just may be grateful for some pleasant, sincere conversation.

The Rules (1 – 3)

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1- No hackneyed pickup lines!

Never, ever do this. Using a cliche line will do one of two things: It will either make you look like you’re trying too hard or it will make you seem inexperienced with women (which is even worse). Keep it simple and just try to be sincere, yourself if that’s you. You’ll be able to cut through the formalities and stand out from all the men who do use lines on women — and yes, there are many who still do. We are in it to win, however.

2- Approach her in places not including bars and nightclubs

In a bar or a nightclub, a woman is used to being approached by men, and she’ll have her guard up. What this means is that she may reject you simply because you approached her right after a man who annoyed her, or because you were last in a long line of men to talk to her. This totally makes sense if you think about it. Once again, it can be stressed that taking rejection too seriously is the sign of a novice without a plan. Each rejection is experience under the belt, confidence gained for the next approach. The important thing to focus on would be locale and type of girl you are looking to meet. Furthermore, in nightclubs, as women are expecting to be picked up, they form a defensive shield against unwanted men. This will obviously work against you.

If you approach her in other places, though, you have the element of surprise to your advantage. In a supermarket or a coffee shop, for example, she won’t be expecting to get picked up and might be pleasantly surprised by your gesture. Having said all that, do be mindful of approaching a woman who is shopping in sweatpants and appears in a rush — she probably won’t make the best audience.

3- Always know when to walk away

Repeat this to yourself before you go in for a pick up: There is nothing worse than a clingy guy. Women need a man who is emotionally in control, someone to complement her imbalances. Reading her body language is not only important to gauge when she’s interested, but also to determine when to walk away.

Pay attention, is she giving you eye contact or are her eyes wandering around the room? Does she look bored by the conversation? If you are giving her your best, most sincere maneuvers, and she is still not responding, cut your losses and move on to the next one.
What if she is giving you all the good signs? You still shouldn’t overstay your welcome. If you leave the conversation on a high note, you’ll only leave her wanting more.

How To

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Why some guys are so much better than others at picking up women?

The reason isn’t because they’re better looking, smarter or have deeper pockets. They likely have two characteristics that work in their favor: persistence and confidence.There are men who might have these characteristics naturally, you don’t need to have been born a Don Juan in order to be successful at picking up women.

You do, however, need to follow a few important guidelines.

There are guidelines that women want men to know(subconsciously or unconsciously, it matters not), and knowing them will give you a huge edge on the competition. There are dating rules that will not only increase your success rate with women, they will allow you to sweep them off their feet with your new self-assured, gentlemanly attitude. But you must study them and know them well.